Success Changes Relationships for the Good and the Bad
As we continue to look at how success changes things, one of the areas of life we must be aware of is our relationships. Success can change us and the way other people approach us. Success changes relationships for the good and the bad. How must we adapt to keep connected to the right people and protected from bad agents?
The Most Important Relationship
As your success grows so must your relationship with God. I have found that the scope of my problems, challenges, and burdens grow with the size of my business. These problems are bigger than me and most other people, meaning I need to go to God more than ever before. He can handle them, move miraculously, and give peace. Earlier in my career, some of the smaller issues could be resolved through a conversation or learning from a mentor, however, with growth comes more unique and personal challenges. I have said it before and I will say it again, Prayer is vital and a lifeline for me.
Your Circle Has to Become Tighter.
Intentionally pursue people who have your best interests at heart. People who understand your purpose and calling in life. These relationsips are important in your life. There is a character introduced in 1 Samuel who is unnamed but is crucial in the life of Jonathan. We know him from this statement.
“Do all that is in your heart. Do as you wish. Behold, I am with you heart and soul.”
1 Sam 14:7 ESV
Jonathan’s armor bearer helped him persevere with the vision, spoke encouragement, and ultimately saw the achievement of fulfilling the vision.
This man said more than with this one statement. He was saying “I am ok with your success. It’s not a threat, I know who I am. I don’t want your life. I am committed to you.” Make friends with people who are secure in their own identity and status. If you can find this kind of person in your life consider yourself very blessed.
Watch Out For Flattery
One of the things I have had to grow in is developing a greater awareness of people’s intentions.- The bible warns us of people who are manipulative and seek to take advantage of our good nature. This is particularly relevant to Christians.
“A flattering neighbor is up to no good; he’s probably planning to take advantage of you.”
Proverbs 29:5 MSG
There will be many people who want to “hook their wagon to your engine.” Developing discernment and seeking God for wisdom in this area has been an important way of guarding my own heart and knowing the difference between a God opportunity and being exploited. If you ask God for help in this area, He will help you in this area of relationships.
Not Everybody is Cheering for your Success - Handling Haters
I like Nehemiah, he was in construction. He was a GC for God. His God-given purpose was to rebuild the city walls. Nehemiah’s speed and quality of work was miraculous, it was so good. As word spread of his accomplishment, he attracted detractors. They wanted an appointment with him, but Nehemiah was focused. You may have to say no to some things in life. Don’t become distracted from God’s purpose for your life. In the story, the people wanting the appointment sought to undermine Nehemiah.
And I sent messengers to them, saying, “I am doing a great work and I cannot come down. Why should the work stop while I leave it and come down to you?”
Nehemiah 6:3 ESV
Detractors may voice strong opinions about you, they may slander and misrepresent you. The challenge is to stay thick-skinned and tender-hearted. It can be tempting to get it the other way, thin-skinned and hard-hearted.